I had a few major failures in my personal life and work in the last few years. As the result, I found myself in an identity crisis in the past year. I wasn’t sure who Mehdi was, what he was up to, what he aspired to do in his personal life and career, and what he was put on earth to accomplish. I was out of alignment with my wife, kids, family, friends and work. Being 39, I initially tried to brush this off as mid life crisis; but then I decided to deal with it.

Then one night, as I was laying on my bed in early 2018 thinking about the purpose of life, a question came to mind: “How will I feel at my death bed? What regrets will I have?”. This led me down a path of self discovery and deep soul searching for the past seven months, challenging everything I believed in and stood for, trying to make sense of who I am and what I want in life. Later when I read The seven habits of highly effective people I also started thinking about how I want those who know me to feel about me when I’m gone. This journey continues; but I feel reborn and reconnected as I write this.

This is my mission statement, what I stand for and want to accomplish in my life. I am sure I am going to change, fumble and learn as I go; but I’m going to take that journey with this new foundation.

Mission Statement

I live a life of contribution, with integrity and empathy, and I take full responsibility for my health, happiness, relationships and career.

When I die, I want to be remembered by family, colleagues and friends as a trustworthy caring person who had a lasting positive impact on their lives and the lives of others.

Principles

I centre my life and every decision I make around the following principles:

  • Integrity: I honour every promise I make, and I only do and say things I’d not be ashamed of if found out,
  • Empathy: I deeply understand others and see the world through their eyes and emotions,
  • Courage: I say and do what I feel is right, with immense consideration for the other party, even when it’s risky to do so,
  • Curiosity: I acknowledge that I am subjective and I learn constantly,
  • Humility: I don’t let my ego control me or hurt others,
  • Excellence: I do my very best in everything I commit to,
  • Patience: I respond with smile when I can’t control the outcome,
  • Emotional Intelligence: I don’t talk or write when emotional,
  • Forgiveness: I lend a hand to the fallen, even if they fell while kicking me,

… and I acknowledge and apologise anytime I fail at any of these principles.

Priorities

The following is the list of my top priorities in life:

  • My health
  • Shadi
  • Benjamin & Jasmine
  • Family
  • Work
  • Community

Goals

It is 5th of August 2023 (five years from now):

  • Shadi and I are in love, like when we were friends
  • Benjamin and Jasmine know who they are and are growing up to live happy successful lives
  • I have a great relationship with my family
  • I have touched the hearts and changed the lives of many people in a lasting positive way
  • I am healthier and happier than when I was 18
  • I have spent a lot of time travelling with Shadi and kids

I still don’t know how I will achieve these goals; but I am committed to make them happen.

Personal development practices

Here is a few practices that I’ve been doing to enable me and my mission:

  • Spend quality time with Shadi and kids
  • Read one book a month
  • Exercise five times a week
  • Write more
  • Call three friends every week
  • Meditate
  • Watch less than three hours of tv a week
  • Get up early
  • Take calculated risks
  • Foster meaningful relationships
  • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude

My journey

The following is the list of things that have had the biggest influence in my journey so far:

To be continued …